Field notes.
Lessons from forty years of dating in every era, written for men who would rather read one useful page than ten soft ones.
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Why the Second Date Is Where Men Blow It
The first date went great, so you coast, and the second one dies. Here is why the second date is the real test and how to pass it.
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What to Do When She Goes Quiet
The replies slow down and your mind writes the worst ending. Here is how to read a quiet stretch and respond like a man, not a worried kid.
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How to Text Like a Grown Man, Not a Teenager
Texting is where good momentum goes to die. Here is how to use it to build a real date instead of a pen-pal situation.
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The First 90 Days After Your Divorce Is Final
The three months after the papers sign decide the next three years. Here is how to spend them so you rebuild instead of relapse.
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When to Have the Exclusive Talk After Divorce
Dating more than one person is not dishonest until you have agreed not to. Here is when and how to have the exclusivity talk like a grown man.
Read it Dating After a 30-Year Marriage
Thirty years married and suddenly single is a specific kind of disorienting. Here is how to date again when the world changed while you were loyal.
Read it How to Vet the Right Woman Before You Get Serious
You would never make a major hire on a good interview alone. Here is how to vet a partner before you hand her the next thirty years.
Read it How to Know She’s the One to Keep
Not the fireworks question. The real one. Here is how to tell the difference between a woman you are excited about and the one to build a life with.
Read it What Women Actually Want in a Man
It is not your bank account or your abs. Here is what accomplished women are actually looking for, from a coach who asks them.
Read it How to Meet Women Without the Apps
The apps are one channel, not the only one. Here is how to meet the right women through your actual life, on purpose.
Read it Rebuilding Your Confidence After Divorce
Confidence is not a feeling you wait for. It is built from kept promises. Here is how to rebuild yours after a divorce took it apart.
Read it How to Stop Comparing Every Woman to Your Ex
If every date gets measured against your marriage, you are dating a ghost. Here is how to meet the woman in front of you as she actually is.
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Building a Life Worth Joining
Stop trying to find the right woman to complete your life. Build a life so good the right woman wants in. Here is how.
Read it How to Tell When You’re the Problem, and Fix It
If the same issue keeps showing up across different women, the common denominator is you. Here is how to find your part and change it.
Read it Red Flags to Watch For When Dating After Divorce
Loneliness makes men ignore the obvious. Here are the red flags worth walking away from, and the green flags worth slowing down for.
Read it How to Spot a Woman Still Fighting Her Divorce
You held yourself to a standard of being ready. Hold her to it too. Here is how to tell if she is present or still at war with her past.
Read it How to Write a Dating Profile for Men Over 50
Your profile does the work before you say a word. Here is how to write one that reads like a full life, not a resignation letter.
Read it What Two Divorces Actually Teach You
I have been divorced twice. Not a credential I wanted, but it taught me the process that finally worked. Here is what it cost me to learn.
Read it How to Know You're Ready to Date After Divorce
Readiness is not a feeling or a date on the calendar. It is a test you can actually pass. Here are the two questions that settle it.
Read it Dating Apps for Men Over 50
The apps work better than you fear and worse than they advertise. Here is how to use them like a man with a full life, not a rookie.
Read it How to Talk to Your Kids About Dating Again
Your kids get a voice, not a veto. Here is how to tell them you are dating again without blowing up the peace.
Read it First Date Conversation After Divorce
The first date is not an interview and not a therapy session. Here is exactly what to say, what to skip, and what to listen for.
Read it How to Handle Rejection When You Start Dating Again
Rejection is a toll, not a verdict. Here is how to take it like a squared-away man and keep it from running your dating life.
Read it How to Date Again After a Gray Divorce
A gray divorce ends one life and hands you a blank page. Here is how to date again on purpose, from a coach who did it after two.
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Dating After Divorce for Men Over 50
Starting over after decades married is a skills gap, not a character flaw. A twice-divorced coach on the story, the standards, and where to actually meet her.
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